When our minds and bodies experience stress, we can easily fall into a pattern of viewing our options as overly simplified “either-or” choices that are ultimately limiting and unsatisfying. You can tell that a choice is overly narrow when it makes you feel agitated, constricted, deprived, and/or unhappier.… Read more... “Move Beyond Either-Or Thinking”
Dear Dr. Civitelli,
I find it difficult to ask for the salary I think I deserve. Could you give me some suggested scripts?
Los Angeles, CA
What to say depends on the situation, but here are common ones, with suggested wording.… Read more... “Salary Raise Negotiation Scripts”
What is e-coaching for my career?
E-coaching for your career is coaching via email to get help with any of the career-related areas in which I have expertise. In general, if the topic is related to choosing, changing, or advancing your career, I can probably help.… Read more... “E-coaching FAQ”
Impostor Syndrome is destructive because everyone who suffers from it thinks they are unique in feeling the way they do, and that everyone else is more carefree and confident. I wrote this article to show how common Impostor Syndrome is.
Impostor Syndrome is a description (originally called Impostor Phenomenon) first identified by Dr.… Read more... “If You Have Impostor Syndrome, Join the Club”
One of the biggest disappointments for new hires is to feel the excitement of starting a new job slowly devolve into frustration as they realize that much of what they promised in the recruitment process about the company culture is not accurate.… Read more... “How to Evaluate a Company Culture”